Friday, April 06, 2007

The Five Love Languages

The Five Love Languages

My primary love language is probably
Acts of Service
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results

Acts of Service: 12
Quality Time: 9
Receiving Gifts: 4
Words of Affirmation: 3
Physical Touch: 2


Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.

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I promise this wasn't just two quiz posts in a row.
I have actually read this book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It was recommended to me by a friend shortly before I broke up with my fiance. This is not the kind of book I normally read. In fact, it is the first book of this variety that I have purchased in a long time (if ever). I was mortified to be in the self-help section searching for this title and not finding it because no way was I asking for assistance. I was much relieved when I finally located it in the religion section instead.

It was an easy read and much of it made a lot of sense to me. 

I would recommend it to couples who are happily together but looking for ways to improve their communication.


Unknown said...

When Mr. LS and I had to do pre-marital counseling (required in order to be married in the episcopla church), our priest told us about this book. Apparently, Mr. LS and I speak different love languages. He like act of service, I like words of affirmation. I might have to go buy it now have piqued my interest again.

I hope you and FF can work something out. It's cliche, but if it's meant to be, it will.

Jenny F. Scientist said...

That's really interesting- I definitely am an acts-of-service person (and I won't even start on how sometimes, then I get really burnt out on helping people). After dealing with a sick friend, I think it might help some of my relationships with my girlfriends to read it. I'll have to go look at it!

I hope FF is able to deal with his drinking problem. My parents nearly divorced over something very similar- it's such a hard thing.