Friday, March 30, 2007

Someone to Talk to

I've always found it easy to talk and talk and talk to my girlfriends. I'm prone to over-analyzation, and I love a good gossip session.

As I get older though my girlfriends are less accessible. None of them live in the same state. They have babies and husbands that need their attention or ten hour work days and two hour commutes that make them virtually impossible to get a hold of.

And so now when I could use a good friend, I don't feel comfortable calling them up out of the blue and dumping my drama in their laps. They all still think that everything is rosy. Where would I start? Why should I burden them?

Intellectually, I know this is a crock. They are my best friends. They would want to listen, to help. As I would if the situation were reversed. But that doesn't change the fact that I am reluctant to pick up the phone and try to put the details into words.

4 comments:

Not so little sister said...

Well you have us!

I know it's not the same. I have a couple good girlfriends that I keep up with and have marathon phone conversations with. I don't know what I'd do without them.

Just pick up the phone! You know they'll have the exact reaction you want them to!

Mary Stebbins Taitt said...

I agree--pick up the phone. Make yourself do it. Say anything. Cry. Scream. They love you. They'll listen. If they're busy, they'll call you back. Girlfriends are important.

It gets worse as you get older. 2 of my best girlfriends have died, Judy and Rebecca. Others are far far away. I have a few new ones, but one of my new one's daughter is expecting twin and she may be moving to Claifornia, oh woe is me. (But good for them, YAY!)

Anyway, do pick up that 50 pound phone!

BerryBird said...

I definitely say make some calls this weekend, at least the long commute won't be a factor that way. And the kiddies are going to be there for a long time. You can't wait 18 years before you talk again!

jo(e) said...

I find it helps if I email a friend and say, "When is a good time to talk?" and make an appointment for a phone call ...